Marriage

Marriage

Interesting topic eh!!!

This is going to be very honest with no hanky panky words, simple and plain English, may be some errors but considerably understandable I think :)

It has been 3 years since I am married now and I think its time for me to write something about this "marriage stuff". I have always been a person who likes to live with his own terms and condition, to the extent that if I am asked to do something , I would deliberately not do it, just to make that person realize that I am not the one who takes orders. Loosing my mother at an early age, I grew up like a wild Stallion running in a jungle, all credit to my father who made sure that this stallion did not run into something which would have cost his live.

A person always trying to control others, I had no control over myself. During my college days, people used to get scared of me, just because of my body language and facial expressions, which I used to think was so cool. But to be honest now I realize that I was a fool , man that rimed :) and how did this realization happen.... "Marriage".. I know many of you will not agree to that.

During my first job as a fresher I met Deepa. To be honest I was not much attracted to her, but as and when I got to know her and our friendship grew I decided that this is the girl and we got married in about 6 months time.
Pretty short time eh!! How? Why? some other time, this is about Marriage so I will quickly come to the point.

Imagine a wild Stallion chained in a cage, yes that was my condition. Shouting, crying and trying to get out, cut loose. But the good thing is, I am not a wild Stallion, I am not an animal, I am a human. Slowly and gradually I realized that yes, this is what I always wanted, this is the kind of control I was looking for, this is the kind of touch, care I was looking for. My life changed, I realized how stupid it is to show attitude to people, how stupid it is to have an ego. I learnt to accept my mistakes, say sorry which I think is the biggest achievement of my life till date. I learnt the importance of the word patience. Life changed from head to toe.
This is all because of something which I got after Marriage, which probably I was looking for but not able to understand it. That something for which probably I will sacrifice anything (when I say anything I mean it). I can go on and on with this...

In today's world or India to be precise, there are couple of things that I realize :
1) People are too scared to get Married.
2) If they do, they look for divorce straight away.

I will think about the people who live in group 1 later, but for group 2 people, I do have a few lines.
Animals - is the only word that comes to my mind. There is no animal on this earth who sticks to one partner or may be just a few. A person who can't live with 1 person can't live with anyone. Belief, trust, love - they are not just words or expressions, they are to be used practically and they do work trust me.
"In relationship, ego is your worst enemy and surrender is your best friend".
Ego will lead to disaster and well for 1st category people, I will just say that please don't get married until and unless you are 100% sure else you will end up in category 2.
Trust me having a partner is the best thing u can ever get in your life.. (I believe only lucky people could get this feeling!) you can get this feeling only by surrendering your ego...

CHEERS!!!!!!!!!!!!
Neelabh.